I have my Facebook account locked down so that people not on my “friends’ list” have limited access to my info. I also have a list of blocked users (I wonder why that is?) who are restricted from contacting/viewing me at all. For those of you who aren’t social media savvy, individuals who aren’t on the friends’ list but also haven’t been blacklisted cannot just initiate conversation. They have to send a message request and I have the option to decline the communication.
So remember the Weird Guy in “Unfriended“? He’s back.
Yesterday I received a message request from him. It seems that he’s not interpreting the social cues that scream I‘m just not interested. I tried deflecting his overtures. I tried disengaging and distancing myself. When none of that worked, I unfriended.
And still he’s messaging me.
Needless to say, I have neither accepted nor declined Weird Guy’s message. I already know I’m disinclined to reply, so accepting/reading the note and then rejecting him seems more insulting than just disregarding the message altogether. However, is acknowledge and ignore any worse than an outright brush off?
Some might say that he deserves to know why I unfriended him. However, I’m not sure I have the facility to say you’re creepy and make me uncomfortable in a way that is both socially acceptable and direct. I don’t want to be callous or cruel, nor do I want to stir up drama in my social circle. At the same time, I’m done with keeping people in my life who don’t add value and I shouldn’t have to justify that to anyone.
I’m pretty sure I was designed to be a hermit.